You experience your soul each time you sense yourself as more than a mind and body, your life as meaningful, or you feel that you have gifts to give and you long to give them.

~ Gary Zukav

Who is that person who once lived life with “wild abandon”? That true soul resides inside each of us. A person who knew how to manage the rolling seas of life and just flow with them. Our “wise one within”, my senior advisor and teacher from the advanced level Eden Method program reminded us often. Our “wise one” knew how to move emotional energy through us, and knew how to easily change our perspective. Babies, toddlers, and young children are so pure this way. They can go from crying like the world is ending to wide-eyed laughter in the blink of an eye.

As adults, we laugh at our “untamed” little one’s short attention spans, but they aren’t dwelling in their heads. They exist from their hearts and enjoy living in the moment all the time. As children, we were good at feeling our emotional energy and would do what was needed to quickly switch it from feeling dark and dense to feeling light and frolicsome. Our kinesthetic senses were astute and our ability to channel our energy was smart and organic. We just knew that laughing, playing, and having fun felt better. We didn’t waste our time ruminating about how we bumped our heads. We just let it out with a good wail to move out the “Ouchy” pain and then saw something fun and cool and quickly got over it.

It’s not until we are told “don’t do that”, act like this, or are compared to our sibling, a schoolmate, our peer group, or someone we idolize that we start feeling like we need to hide this natural soul essence of who we truly are. No one wants to be the bad onion in the pot.

Your parents don’t purposely set out to make you a people-pleasing robot, but it’s a human survival instinct. They thought that if you act and behave like they’ve been taught you will persevere. They condition you from the moment you are born to fit in and belong so you will be taken care of. They were also conditioned by their parents and grandparents, who were conditioned by theirs. Everyone does the best they can with what they understand at the time. Like our DNA genetics, we inherit both the good and bad nurturing habits of how our ancestors behaved in the group they were raised in.

It’s our survival instinct programming that makes us follow the hierarchy of the hive. If you are a historian, it’s not hard to see how this “hive mentality” can lead a population to expansionism or failure in the blink of an eye. Becoming a worker bee, bending over backward to support the more important bees puts our important desires and selfcare aside. Instead, we begin to believe we are this awkward, squiggly, bug creature like the caterpillar that must be cocooned or imprisoned before we are allowed to be transformed into a butterfly.

We need to remember we are already butterflies, people!

The older we get the more conditioned we become, and we begin to lose our connection to our magnificent soul self. Instead, we start believing that to be safe we must control the world around us. Our eternal soul knows it’s safe, but our human animal self has been taught to stop listening. Bruce Lipton, who wrote the groundbreaking book, Biology of Belief explains how our subconscious programming from our childhood is an automatic reaction that our ego uses to move through life. The ego likes to be in control and the more we try to control the less we know how to go with the flow. The more unbending we become the more disgruntled and unhappy we become. The subconscious programmed mind becomes this hidden massive frozen ridged iceberg under the water that’s now running the show. Only 5% of disease is genetic. The rest is how we live. To override this software, we must become aware of what’s making us respond the way we do.

Life is ever-evolving and constantly changing, something humans cannot control. The more inflexible we become to change the more our reptilian brain gets involved and it starts to bombard us with “fear, anger, panic, worry and sadness hormones”. Thoughts are things and these “things” can create a force of negativity that is unhealthy for us. In Energy Medicine we call this type of energy “Triple Warmer reactivity” and this type of energy creates our “fight, flight or freeze” responses and leans us toward physical and mental breakdowns.

Our soul is fearless energy, our Triple Warmer energy acting as a Radiant circuit. We first inhabit a biological body as a spark of radiant energy, an explosion of magnificence, full of wisdom and eternal understanding. As “wise ones” we come in with no filters or blocks and are not intimidated to show our authentic selves. This divine source of energy happens in the moment of your conception, infusing into your first dividing cells the purpose of bringing more love, joy, bliss, wonder, tranquility, peace, and freedom into this world. Your soul’s purpose for coming into this world is to remind others that “Loving is the most important thing in life.”

Triple Warmer energy as a radiant circuit makes thought changers brave. When we live from our soul, we become the superheroes in our own story that can face the trials that life throws us. Historical revolutionaries had a strong connection to their “soul’s voice”. Their strength came from that fearless radiance that magnified their ability to change other people’s minds and move the world forward for the betterment of mankind: Jesus, Budha, Gandhi, Martin Luther King, or Bob Marley. These are the people whose “wise ones” were strong enough never to let societal norms dictate their next move. Imagine a bird freely soaring above the clouds. They are the symbols of an independent, free-spirited person. These folks are always dancing to their tune.

How we respond to what happens in our lives makes a difference. If we have a growth mindset, we look for the lesson we are to learn from a situation and a way to overcome whatever obstacle is in our way. If we have a fixed mindset, we may see circumstance as proof of our continued failures. See the difference? How we perceive the situation determines if it pushes us forward or keeps us stagnating. We may not be able to control the world around us but we can control our perceptions. We can choose to reframe the story to one that uplifts. We can choose how we see the world.

Being joyful is a choice… Dr. Patch Adams, now 79, played by Robin Williams in the movie about his life, tells his audiences that scientific data shows joy is good for you! Britte and I saw him live in 2019 as a keynote speaker for the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology “ACEP” and were front row at his lecture on “Humour and Health”. I filmed Britte enjoying one of the entertaining examples of how humour makes life more fun. Making an active decision to be happy, funny, loving, creative, cooperative, and thoughtful cultivates a joyful life. Dr. Adams believes that laughter, joy, and creativity are integral parts of the healing process and true health care must incorporate these.

Your soul's voice reflects your true self. It’s the energy present before you are born in this physical body. And it’s the energy that will go on when the body dies. Being joyful is its language. Share your delight by doing fun things with others. Dance, sing, and cook together. When we spend more time playing, laughing, and experiencing more joy, we bond with one another. It fosters the growth of new friendships and helps us stay close to friends and family. We cherish memories that enrich our true selves and multiply the joyfulness all around us.

You Were Born Fabulous Darling!

We need to remember we are already butterflies, people!

Remember your soul just wants you to have fun!